Hi Small Group Leaders!
First of all, be aware of the time change this Sunday!!! We spring forward an hour!
Second, as we prepare for Easter Sunday, just a reminder that 180 will be a bit different. 180 will be in the 5th Gear Room for 5-8th grade students. There will not be small groups. The Student Center will be a second venue, a coffee venue, for the sanctuary service and we will encourage high school students to attend with their families. 5-8th graders will have a service created just for them at the 7:45, 9:00, and 10:15 hours. We are in need of 1-2 volunteers per service to help us out. Please let us know if you are available!
We’re in the third week of our series, More Than Friends. This week, we’re talking about boundaries when it comes to something that has the power to shape your students’ relationships today and in the future: pornography. We’re praying for you and here to help as you lead your students in this important discussion.
WEEK THREE SUMMARY: 3/11/18
While we may want to act like pornography doesn’t exist or impact us, the reality is that, between social media, TV, movies, and the Internet, porn has the potential to destroy the health of our relationships. This week, as we look at some wisdom from Jesus Himself, we’ll see that we can keep our lives and relationships healthy by taking extreme steps to fight against the power of pornography.
Getting healthy requires extreme measures.
THE GOAL OF SMALL GROUP
To help students understand that when it comes to breaking free from things that enslave them, they can’t keep just making a commitment or promise to themselves and expect a different result.
SCRIPTURE REFERENCES & SMALL GROUP QUESTIONS
“If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away” (Matthew 5:29a NIV)
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body” (1 Corinthians 6:18 NIV)
1.Talk about the best and worst relationship advice you have heard.
2.Why do you think our culture doesn’t acknowledge the negative impact sexual content has in our lives?
3.How can we flee from sexual immorality?
4.Why does getting healthy in any area require extreme measures? (Think about how strong our habits can become.)
5.What are some actions you will take to stay healthy in this area? Who is someone you can trust with this topic, to hold you accountable?
6.Whether or not you struggle with porn, what are the benefits of restricting access to it? Why is
that inconvenient, but totally worth it?
7.A parental monitoring app/self accountability: QUSTODIO.COM
When it comes to relationships, we all probably have a list.
Even if we don’t have an actual physical list, most of us have a good idea of the qualities and characteristics we look for in a relationship.
Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, chances are you’ve at least thought about this list at some point along the way. But have you ever taken the things on that list and turned them around on yourself? Think about it! Of all the qualities you’re looking for in someone else, which ones do you actually possess yourself? In other words, can the person you’re looking for find those qualities and characteristics in you?
Now before you panic and throw in the towel altogether, remember that it is possible to become that kind of person. How? With God’s help!
Take Paul’s list for example:
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice in injustice, but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NLT).
If this is the kind of person you’re looking for—someone who’s patient, kind, humble, and forgiving—then that’s the kind of person you should strive to be. But it doesn’t stop with these values. The truth is, sin fights hard for a foothold in our most valuable relationships. That’s why it’s also important to be on guard against the things that can harm our relationships, taking extreme measure to rid ourselves of the things that can get in the way. Jesus put it this way:
“If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away” (Matthew 5:29a NIV).
While this sounds extreme, we have to fight to be the kind of people we want to be—the kind of people we hope others are looking for, too. And sometimes getting healthy and growing in the values that Paul listed means getting extreme and gouging out the parts of our lives that cause us to stumble in that pursuit.
This week, try to memorize 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. As you think both about who you are and the kind of relationship you have or hope to have, remember both Paul’s words and Jesus’ words. Then ask God to help you “gouge out” the parts of your life that are keeping you from becoming the person who checks off this list.
“You can’t give yourself fully to someone else as long as you are mastered by something else.” —Andy Stanley